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Mom Tells Kids They Can Buy Late Dad's Belongings at Her Yard Sale After They Refuse to Take Things for 2 Years

The Redditor wasn't sure if she handled the situation correctly

Steven Puetzer/The Image Bank/Getty Images Stock image of person looking through items at a yard sale
Steven Puetzer/The Image Bank/Getty Images Stock image of person looking through items at a yard sale
  • A widow is looking to make some space in her home after her husband's death two years ago

  • Her adult children, between ages 25 and 31, were given opportunities to take some of their dad's belongings, but never followed through

  • When the original poster (OP) decided to hold a yard sale and move on from her husband's possessions, her kids became upset with her

A widow working on moving on was met by some resistance from her kids.

The woman took to Reddit's AmITheA------ subreddit to find out if she was in the wrong for deciding to part with some of her late husband's belongings after her kids showed no interest in keeping them.

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"My husband passed away two years ago. He had cancer and decided not to fight it. He passed away and it has been rough for all my kids. They are all adults; the oldest is 31, and the youngest is 25," the original poster (OP) explained.

"I still live in the home my husband and I shared. I have been slowly getting rid of things and I have asked the kids multiple times that if they want something that [they] need to get it. Nothing, every time they never take anything," she continued.

OP decided a yard sale would be the best course of action so some of the things could find a new home.

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"What doesn't sell there, I will start putting on Facebook marketplace and other platforms. I’m tired of looking at all my dead husband’s stuff day in and day out. It’s depressing, it’s like living with a ghost," she leveled.

OP's printer was having trouble, so she went to her son's house, where she printed the flyers for the yard sale. Not only was he unhappy, but he informed his siblings who felt the same way.

"This is when I informed him I am selling as much as possible," she explained.

"He got upset for selling Dad's stuff. The rest of the kids were informed, and they were upset as well. I told them if they want some of his stuff, then buy it at the yard sale," OP wrote. "They had two years to grab stuff. One called me a d--- and I [am] doubting myself on this."

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OP later clarified that she didn't say this because she wants her kids to pay her for the items. "I don't care about the money. They could give me a penny. What I care about is that they are serious about taking it, and it doesn’t come back to my home," she noted. "I don’t want them to take boxes, and then a few months later, it’s back at my home."

Many people pointed out OP was correct in that she gave her kids ample time to take what they wanted, to which she wrote, "I’m so tired of living with a ghost, he’s everywhere. Our shared stuff is fine all his personal stuff is sitting waiting for him to come back but he is not coming back. His fishing pole will never be picked up by him again. The ghost is everywhere."

A few people noted that OP and her children were not processing their grief the same, which was where some of their behavior seemed to stem from.

"Selling your late husband's belongings doesn't diminish his memory. It's simply a step for you to move forward with your life," the commenter wrote. "It's time for them to understand that you deserve to live in a home that brings you comfort, not constant sorrow."

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